I think when we lost Charlotte I thought that would be the hardest thing we would ever have to bear, at least for a little while. In dealing with my health that kept getting worse, I cried out to God. "Didn't I bring you glory in my response to the loss of Charlotte? Why this? Please heal me."
In the midst of our grief and my health issues, Steve and I seemed to drift from each other. I felt as though God had abandoned me and now I felt as though Steve had as well. I can truly say that the reason Steve and I drifted apart was because we were both learning how to grieve. Neither one of us had experienced grief or loss before. We both grieved in different ways. Each of us not knowing what to do or say to the other.
Before I scare any of you, we are doing well now. We talked to a pastor at church, who encouraged us that what we were going through was normal for marriages and escalated by our loss. From that point, things began to turn around.
In mid-June, we also found out some exciting news. We are expecting another baby. We are ecstatic. But this news, in itself has thrown a few curve balls. Now we were not only dealing with grief, health issues and marriage issues, but we have a new baby. This opens wounds and leaves lots and lots of opportunity for fear to creep in.
So needless to say, these are some of the reasons I haven't been writing much. Right after we lost Charlotte, I began writing our story. A few months ago I decided I wanted to have it done by six months. Next week it will be six months since we lost our baby girl. I am almost ready to publish her story. I sat and worked on it today and am still amazed at the emotion that fills me as I write. Here I am sitting in a loud coffee shop typing as fast as I can type with tears rolling down my cheeks. I truly pray that our story will help and encourage others in their own losses.
As for us now, we continue to walk in FAITH. Having faith that God will heal me, faith our marriage will continue to grow stronger, faith we will hold our new baby in our arms in January, faith we will know God more from the experiences we have here on this earth, and most of all we have faith in the hope we have that this life is temporary.
"So we do not lose heart. Though our outer self is wasting away, our inner self is being renewed day by day. For this light and momentary affliction is preparing for us an eternal weight of glory beyond all comparison, as we look not to the things that are seen but to the things that are unseen. For the things that are seen are transient, but the things that are unseen are eternal." 2 Corinthians 4:16-18